Reconciling family life and work is a great challenge for people with children. Doing it efficiently, isn´t that easy, and it is one of the greatest challenges of nowadays.
Matching our different roles (such as mother, professional, woman, friend, partner, lover, athlete, etc., etc.) is one of the greatest challenges of modern life. Recent surveys indicate that it is the women who work the most, whether in the home or outside the home.
While drawing attention to the need for shared responsibility with boys in terms of care for children and seniors, as well as cleaning and cooking activities, reconciling different activities is still a more difficult challenge for women, than for men. To love what you do is key to being able to spread enthusiasm. Growing professionally makes us feel more full, and generates spaces of personal and social enrichment that manage to maintain an identity of our own.
Now, if we are workers and mothers, what to do? Ideally, when you are with your children, you should be with them in every way. That is, create a healthy link and not being with the cell phone, the computer or watching things from work. In this sense, it is necessary a human contact, face to face and with much affection … affection and emotional exchange is the common factor of all bond, and more when that bond is with the children.
When you are in your workplace you can not take care of your children, you are dedicated exclusively to work … then: the time you spend with your children should be exclusive and with a high quality relation. We should not be the caricatured portrait of today’s Workaholic.
What about Teamwork? Motherhood requires, as we all know, a lot of work. The man must assume an aid to the woman constantly. Both parents on equal terms … this is a fundamental so that each one can develop and live fully. It is necessary to share all household tasks, including meetings, events, birthdays, etc.
They both can also receive help from other people; people from outside the couple´s world, such as grandparents, siblings, in-laws, etc. Thia help has to be accepted without problems … but, in the form of a team, without a leader, nor a boss. The captain of the team is everyone.
Everyone does everything, we have to share the tasks.
The collaboration of all family members also involves the children: when the mother works, all the family members must adapt to that situation, not just the father. Everyone should be available to help the mother. Everyone should collaborate on what she needs, and what she has planned for the family. Everyone should be involved not only with their needs, but with those of the rest to make a good team. It is an excellent learning for all and is an excellent way to carry out a democratic model.
What to do with that ugly guilt feeling? Amid this multiplicity of roles and tasks faced by parents, the feeling of guilt, caused by having to separate from the children to go to work, accompanied by a social critique of this, which still persists.
Working is essential for a healthy life. Why? It allows each person to have their personal space. It’s beautiful to come back to your home and comment on what you did that day, what problems you had and how they could help you solve everything. Sharing times like these are the ones that make it worth living.
What can hinder everything? Although there is a certain openness in the labor market in favoring measures towards mothers and fathers (such as the increase in paternity leave), it is still very incipient and there is still a lack of programs and policies that accompany families in this double challenge.
Allowing flexible working hours or substituting meetings with videoconferences – among many other facilities – are incentives that companies can collaborate to take advantage of the potential of their employees. In turn they can also carry out business policies that sponsor the home office. The home office allows you to work, being equally productive for the company and being at home taking care of your children.